Not the eternal kind.
But our tendency as humans to judge others.
For what they believe, or don't believe.
For the way they dress, or don't dress.
For the kind of car they drive, or don't drive.
For the words they say, or don't say.
For the thoughts we assume they think, or don't think.
For the way they act, or don't act.
For seriously, anything. Judgement.
And I don't only mean the obvious ways of judgement: giving someone a dirty look or talking about them behind their back or spewing harsh words in their face (or on Facebook).
I mean the subtleties.
The small passive-aggressive comments.
The little voice in your head that says, "They aren't good because they do this."
The slight pulling away of your body when your in the middle of a conversation.
The little things that tell you that you are uncomfortable with whatever is happening. And if you are uncomfortable, it's obviously wrong and whoever said the thing or did the thing might be bad, or unsafe, or crazy.
Yes, we need to listen to our gut to protect ourself from a possibly scary situation. But that's not what I'm talking about.
I'm talking about when someone simply says something you don't agree with. Something that might put a dent or a crack in the walls of the box where you have your beliefs and view of how the world "should be."
It's uncomfortable to think we judge others. Most of us pretend like we don't, and most of us are liars. If we are truly honest, we admit this fault.
We all have this list of things God hates. We all have an idea of what is righteous and holy and if someone doesn't line up with that list perfectly, then we give ourselves the freedom to judge them. Because we are holier than them. We know better than them. We care more about scripture and justice and people and righteousness than them.
When we do this, though, we are doing something even more terrible than what they did to deserve our judgement. We are putting ourselves in the place of God. And do you know what God really hates? People who think they are God. People who act like they are God. People who think they know exactly what God thinks and because of their knowledge of God, can play God. God is a jealous God, and God doesn't like it when we act like God.
In the Old Testament, rulers were taken down or put in their place because they were acting like God or like they were above God's judgement - i.e. Pharaoh in Exodus, King Saul, even David. The people of Israel were cast out of their homes when they stopped listening to God. The Pharisees were chastised for thinking they knew what God wanted and for demonizing anyone who didn't follow their guidelines.
In Romans Paul argues that by judging others we are despising and turning away from the kindness, forbearance, and patience of God. We are refusing to let God's kindness lead us to repentance. We are self-seeking, attempting to make ourselves look and feel better than the one we are judging.
When we judge others, we lower them to a level where we see them as unacceptable.
News flash: We are all unacceptable.
We are also all human. all wanted. all loved. no matter what.
So what if someone does something terribly evil? What are we to do?
Hint: Not judge them.
Even murders and cheats and thieves and politicians and (insert your choice of "bad" people here).
Yes, even them.
Don't you know that God used people just like them to save the Hebrew people from slavery? To rule the chosen nation? To minister at Jesus' side and carry the Gospel to the nations after the resurrection?
We are all those type of people.
We are all persons.
So what are we to do?
Stop judging.
And.
Fight.
Fight - with yourself, with society, with whomever you need to - to see past the labels, to meet people where they are. To listen to their story and find their pain and lead them to healing. Because pain is an essential part of human experience, and tapping into your own pain to empathize with the hurts and needs of others in the best way to remind ourselves that we are all human. And we need each other to find God.
Stop judging.
Lead with kindness and peace and self control, because those are fruits of the Spirit. Those are what God gives us to survive in this messed up world.
During this season of Lent, God has already revealed the places where I pass judgement onto others. I am attempting to repent and change my subtle thoughts before they turn into defiant, cruel action. Maybe we can work on this together, person with person?
"There are six things which the Lord hate. Yes, seven that are an abomination to God:
Haughty eyes . . . and one who spreads strife among fellow persons." - Proverbs 6:16, 17a, 19b
"Therefore you have no excuse, whoever you are, when you judge others; for in passing judgement on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, are doing the very same things. You say, "We know that God's judgement on those who do such things is in accordance with truth." Do you imagine, whoever you are, that when you judge those who do such things and yet do them yourself, you will escape the judgement of God? Or do you despise the riches of God's kindness and forbearance and patience? Do you not realize that God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?" - Romans 2:1-5
"A person is a person because he/she recognizes others as persons." - Desmond Tutu
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